Danielle Krysa is the person behind The Jealous Curator where, “jealousy can actually be turned completely on it’s head, and used as fuel to get back into the studio.” Turning a negative emotion into a positive experience is a magical experience. Krysa shares with us what makes that emotional alchemy possible.
She also has talks with “amazingly talented contemporary artists” which she then shares on her podcast Art for Your Ear. Have a listen, you will soon be enchanted by the voice and person who is The Jealous Curator and more.
What Should You Say to Your Inner Critic?
“It was so refreshing to hear these people that you admire so much go, oh yeah I hear my inner critic everyday or oh yeah I feel like an impostor every time I show up at an art show…When they admit it you know it kind of gives you license to go, ok well I feel like that to but I am not going to let it stop me, I am just going to power forward like they do.”
Krysa has a new book coming out in October called Your Inner Critic is a Big Jerk. There is a donkey on the cover. A donkey can sometimes be called an ass and that about sums up what you should be thinking about your inner critic. Tell it to take a walk off a cliff and then walk the other way. The best think you can do when being creative is to know everyone has their inner critic, even those who are deemed successful by our culture at large. When you realize that, you take off the kids gloves and let your inner critic have it, literally tell it to f^&k off. Excuse the language, right? No, you aren’t being polite with your inner critic, that’s the whole point. You need to literally send a very strong and powerful message to your inner critic and free yourself from it’s tyrannical rule.
Ok so that might sound good to do once and it’s liberating for sure but what about the day to day practical application? You can’t go around swearing at your inner critic all the time, right? Ok right, that might not be good so let’s see what Krysa says about those artists who have make it past the critic on a regular basis…
Wake Up and Do It Again, Sisyphus Anyone?
“They might work in the studio for eight hours and everything they make is terrible but the next day they go and do it again. Where I would go to the studio and if I made something terrible I would just not make anything for three months. When you do that your inner critic wins and it gets louder and louder and louder. But if you show up again the next day and you do something great and you know this applies to writing, music, cooking, parenting, and everything. If you just keep showing up and doing it again, and doing it again, that voice get’s quieter and quieter because it looses it’s power.”
Could it be that simple? You bet it can because in that simplicity is the power to create everyday. Show up everyday and what happens? The inner critic looses it’s power. Pretty cool, simple yet it can be just like Sisyphus who rolls that boulder uphill to watch it roll down again. Just because you have done a successful painting, published a book, or gained a reward doesn’t mean the next time get’s any easier. So enough of the inner critic, what about other people?
The Critical Source
Amanda Happe one of the people she interviewed said, “The great thing about negative criticism is you don’t have to care. No one can wrestle the pencil out of your hand, you get to keep going in absolute defiance” (check out the podcast episode on The Jealous Curator).
So yes you do defy the other critics also. It doesn’t mean you ignore all feedback, you just want to consider the source.
Often times Krysa will get feedback from an inner circle before she let’s what she creates out into the wild.
“If it’s the source that you trust, give it a whirl, if it’s not do your very, very best to delete it and move on.” Get a tribe of people you trust and value the opinion of and use them to give you feedback. Even just 3-4 people is enough.
“Proper feedback get’s you excited and moves you forward. Criticism that just comes from jerks online is meant to stop you in your tracks.”
Another way to look at creating is from when you were a kid, full of play and seeing what’s possible.
“You know when you were little and we would put on plays in the backyard or you would write a little book or you would sew something or paint something you didn’t care what people thought. You didn’t care if it ended up in a gallery, you didn’t care if it got published, you just made stuff. So play is sort of finding that child like joy again and just rolling around in it and enjoying it”
So enjoy the process, have fun with it, play with child like wonder! Trust yourself to be creative.
“It’s when you just trust yourself as a creative person, you relax, and you listen, and pay attention to things that are happening around you and it’ll just show up. You have to be prepared for it, you have to be watching for it otherwise it could just sail on by. When I have those little things I just jot them down because it often turns into the next thing.”
We also touched upon when you might consider being creatively quiet. Listen to the full podcast for a lot more great ideas from The Jealous Curator!